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Originally Posted by ultramar
I'm only just starting read this thread and am more and more shocked by the 'reasons' given for planning on having a child. The latest I have read is: And even if I do not end up with the best r/s, I still will have accomplished raising a child from cradle to college.
So that... you can have the sense of accomplishment of having raised the child.
I am just not seeing where the *child* as a separate human being with their own -enormous- needs fits into this.
I just don't think it's childrens' job to fulfill the needs of their parents and this is where I see this going.
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Ultramar, thanks for reading, but you are wasting your time, for two reasons:
As Christina and BlueInanna pointed out, you are reading the beginning of thread from three months ago and I already made the decision two days ago.
Christina and Blue and some others know the context of my struggles because they have been with me through a lot, over a long period of time. For you to acquire the understanding of the context will take too long. And, since it is no longer needed, there is no point.
Thank you, though.