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Originally Posted by vanessa22
When i first realized i had an ed, i joined OA (Over eaters Anonymous) and vowed my abstinence and even in the worst of my ed anorexic days, i still never even thought about binging. The first time i binged this year it was so weird.. And i forgave myself and realized it was because i was so deprived for so long..
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Vowing abstinence is harmful, because you cannot control yourself enough to honor and uphold the vow, and failing leads to feelings of guilt, worthlessness, etc. You ALREADY have enough problems - you do not need EXTRA problems from feeling guilty, feeling like a failure, etc. You have had MORE than your fair share of problems - the stepdad, the work situation, etc. So you need to make your life easier and better rather than more miserable than it already is.
Had you been able to control yourself enough to abstain from overeating/binging IN THE FIRST PLACE, you would not have had any problem, and you would not have even
considered OA - right?
You need practical steps that do not involve vows you cannot possibly honor.
Hankster and Bubsmiley give good solid practical advice.