I have lost my patience. She called complaining that her check has not arrived yet. I asked her what the hurry was, we had already planned on picking her up the day before our son's wedding already. (We do have family coming from that area, but she will not ride with them because she is a smoker and she cannot smoke in their vehicle.) She informs me that she made a hair appointment the night before my son gets married. Cut, color, perm from 6:30 - 10:30. WHAT ARE YOU THINKING? Your grandson is getting married and you expect me, his mother to wait until 11 pm or later (she will not pack in advance) to leave your house and drive four hours back to my house the wee hours of the day of my son's wedding?!? THAT is not going to happen. She said "we can leave in the morning." MOTHER, I have my own things to do!!!! I cannot spend four hours the day my son gets married driving you to the wedding! Now I understand why she's freaking out, she knew I would not do this. If she wants to be late for her grandson's wedding to get her hair done, I will never forgive her for that. I told her I've done all I can. She's on her own.