Hello, mister-a. There is no simple answer to your question. I understand your predicament, but I assume you are writing about what happens in real life and not here in the internet.

It is difficult to answer for me because I just respond to the situation and try to fit in. I understand why you might feel like the others may not find you interesting and it has got you feeling a bit paranoid.

Don't worry about feeling paranoid. Feeling paranoid is like a being a boy scout(back in the days when it was popular)-you are prepared for the worst, but it usually does not happen, so you get a positive result. The worst did not happen.

I would like to think that the best way of communicating is finding a golden nugget of humor. It just takes timing and knowing your audience.

While you gather information on trying to develop that skill, you should consider that concise sentences are more effective.

Here are some links for you to look through to see if it will help you find some answers.

Relationships & Communication - Forums at Psych Central
Anxiety, Panic and Phobias - Forums at Psych Central
http://forums.psychcentral.com/anxie...ours-here.html
Anxiety Success Stories - Forums at Psych Central
http://forums.psychcentral.com/anxie...rstanding.html
Psychological Tests and Quizzes