You are not screwing that up. You have to give yourself a break. This is new to you and it takes time to understand the way in which you and your alters communicate. I think it is important that she told your t she wants you to listen. If you are willing to listen let her know that. When I was trying to figure how to talk with my alters I started by talking out loud to myself. I didn't know if anyone of my alters could hear me but after doing this for awhile I began to get responses through thought. It was odd because I had always heard the thoughts but I never realized the thoughts belonged to different alters. And that is how we all communicated. Learning how we communicated helped me to understand my system better.