If your partner won't hear you out and respect you, you have to decide if you want to live like that, or if it's just too much. You may need to move on. One sad fact is that only one in ten men help around the house (I think that statistic is specifically about married couples, but I'm not sure). Feminism hasn't done much for us ladies in that realm. We concentrated on getting more equality in business and politics, but not so much the home. In nine out of ten homes, the woman does the cleaning and home chores, while the husband works outside the home. Usually, a man gets to come home after work and sit down and relax, whereas the wife--often a mom--has to work 24/7 (especially if she has kids, because even if she's asleep, she's usually the one who has to get up in the middle of the night to tend to the children), and rarely gets time off.