As I think of it, there has been this mental manipulation for a long time. I'm just really angry that she's decided to pull this crap at such a stressful time in my life. This is a time when I could use her support, but all I get are more demands.

Maven, I don't know, this has seriously made me reconsider things. I understand the thought that she won't be here forever, and will I regret later losing my temper over this? I really don't think that I will. She's trying to compete with my children for my attention. There are some serious changes going on in my youngest son's life. I shouldn't have to cut into the limited time I have with him so she can get her hair done. How self centered is that? I should be sleeping now. I know she's going to call me in a few hours and say "I'm ready for you to pick me up." She won't even ask. It's just understood that I have to drop everything.

Thanks so much for letting me vent. It has been so helpful. Without an outlet I would have told her exactly what I think of her right now. I cannot vent to my brother, his response is "move to the east coast then she'd leave both of us alone."