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Syra · Apr 05, 2013, 07:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Rect0pathic

For months and months my T keeps saying Rectopathic, you are angry to me in my sessions. This then just makes me angry at her. She's got me throwing cushions etc but I don't feel angry at other people.

I am not a violent person and I've forgiven all the abusers etc; but she just won't let it rest.

I don't know how many more times I can pursuade her I'm NOT angry anymore. I keep telling her but she doesn't believe me.

Has this ever happened to anyone else?

Yes. It happened to me. My therapist kept telling me I shouldn't respond a certain way, and I thought I was doing fine. I liked what I was doing. Not that I had finally made it, but that my current response was significant progress than my prior response, and I was willing to give myself time to learn and observe and develop, and support and compassion for dealing with the hurt.

I came to see it didn't matter if what she was saying was true or not. We could only work with me where I was right now, and if I was making progress, than that was good enough for me.

I don't think therapy is so the therapist can teach us what we need to know to improve. I think therapy is to have a safe place and facfilitiation to grow at our own pace, in our own way, following the path that presents to the client. Arguing about whether I should be feeling something different, and doing something different was a waste of my time and money (well, not a total waste. there's always something to learn. I don't think she would like to know she was the source of some of the learnings I got.).