My T and I were discussing my history of emotional intimacy with men, and lack of intimacy with my current husband. I told him I have only had one long term intimate relationship and that is with my husband. I have been seeing my therapist for 5 years.
He replied that this might sound strange to me but its not meant to. That the relationship we have is an intimate relationship. He said, "we dont have sex, we cant, bad idea, would be against all ethics and morals but it's still an intimate relationship."
My romantic feelings toward him continue, but have matured. I know we can never be together, and the acceptance of that has lessened the intensity of the feelings. But hearing him say this
somehow sounds to me like he thinks about being with me. And perhaps if things were different, we he wouldn't mind being with me. I'm trying to get this out of my head. To not twist it to fit my fantasies, and to appreciate his honesty. I know a lot about him as he self discloses a lot, he knows everything about me. There is nothing I cant tell him.
Not sure what my point is here, I guess that I was just surprised to hear him say this.
Even though it's a little confusing, It still feels like we are closer now.
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