First of all this is NOT a trick question, but one that I really need some advice on..a concensus.
My wife and I split up last August after I had an emotional affair in 2009 (but I STILL maintain she was just a friend, I had no emotional attachment to her), and then last year I also had an affair ONLINE with someone I met in an adult virtual reality video game. We began fighting, screaming yelling, and ultimately I left because I could not stand the fighting any longer.
I have my issues and I have been working on them and taking my meds and making lots of progress. We are now beter friends than we have been in years, we co-parent our daughter, do some activities as a "family" and share duties as parents. I pay all my alimony and child support. I am NOT the same a$$hole that I was this time last year. I DO NOT expect that all is "forgive and forget" but at what point is it enough?
So I am the one who had the affairs, I am the one who left her...so here is the question...
How long does she get to keep throwing all that up to me?
How long does she get to keep reminding me of my mistakes, my shortfalls, my lies, my affairs, my decision to "abandon my family."
I have been told by one of the Church Pastors that she gets to beat me up with it for as long as she wants to, that I have to be a man and take it.
My T says that she is hurting and she does need to vent in my direction, and that could go on for a few months, but as for "as long as she wants to" that is ridiculous!
So I am asking you to weigh in on it...no matter what your opinion is, please share it and don't be afraid to hurt my feelings....I am NOT suicidal and never have been!
All I did last night was ask her a question in an apparently offending tone of voice and she just unloaded on me, screaming and yelling like old times, telling me what a piece of crap I am and how I set her up and all sorts of other venting....our daughter starts to cry hysterically and then she gets mad at ME for that too...
So I need some help...I mean WTF? When is it enough....ever?
