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Originally Posted by just a gurl
Y'know, maybe you can help me....?? First I gotta say, I have no idea when enough is enough. I can understand her being hurt. But from there to say that she can vent on you forever, I don't agree. My feeling is that she will take it out on you until she finds someone new. That said, Maybe now you could explain to me, why the emotional and cyber affairs? Because my man is doing the same. I havn't discussed it with him at all, but I've got a foot out the door because of it. I just wanna know why? Every situation is different I know, but some insight from an outsider? Please, let me know...
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For me personally it was a combination of personal issues (self worth, search for acceptance) and I suppose a sort of passive-aggressiveness for all that "I" feel I did for her and it was never enough....it was always like...ok you did this, what will you do next? Like I was never able to meet HER expectations of me so I was in constant search of emotional acceptance because I was sexually satisfied (although now I have been told we NEVER had sex as much as she wanted to) and she refused to fake an orgasm for anyone....and she had plenty of them! Just sayin. I gave up my families home, my restaurant career, anything that she didn't like in order for her to be happy. In retrospect, we both had issues with each other early on that should SHOULD have brought about the end of the relationship...but we were so drawn to each other. Maybe all this is to prepare us for something different? The next phase of our lives?
I am still searching for that special someone that will love me for me...for who I am.
I believe that I have and continue to tackle my issues and no longer use any crutches to get thru life....so I am getting thru life head on!
Hope any of that info is helpful.
Feel free to PM me and I am happy to get more in depth.