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Old Apr 05, 2013, 02:30 PM
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Originally Posted by Soups View Post
It is individual perspective. Some can handle and some can't.
As Hamster Bamster said: "attractions are not willable and attachments are not
plannable" and when it is one sided that is where lies most risk.
Right. Everyone should realize, though, that the problem of unplannability and unwillability is present in other arrangements as well. Say conventional lifetime monogamy is an attempt to plan to stay attached forever. Oftentimes, these attempts fail. Just as you cannot plan to not become attached in the course of casual sex, you cannot plan to be attached forever in the course of non-casual sex. So either way, there is uncertainty and risk.