Hi LLT. Maybe T means that your anxiety (fears) are valid, I'm sure she understands you are anxious. However, T might feel "some" of those fears might be irrational. Of course we should always be vigiliant towards attack in public, but maybe not so much in your home.

It must be hard for you, LLT. Nobody likes feeling misunderstood. I know I don't.

You know when a child is scared of the monster in the closet, and if that child is lucky someone will help them look in the closet with a flashlight to see there is no danger there. Maybe T wants you to back up your fears. Maybe