I feel like forgiveness is such a personal decision and almost an individual, unique process. I was told by a T along time ago that I needed too let go of my anger at my mom and to forgive. I pleaded with him, "okay - take my anger! I don't want it! But tell me how to do this cause I just don't know how!" Well it didn't work for me. In fact, it may have been harmful for me in my situation. I'm finally just now returning to therapy after almost 10 years....Take care of yourself and let yourself grieve and work through your pain on your own timeline