It used to make my life a misery.
Not anymore.
Not because I have completely stopped overeating or because I am thin. I am zaftig, pleasingly plump, a big beautiful, woman, or whatever else you want to say for "fat" a word that has become an obscenity.
It's gotten so that you cannot be considered beautiful physically if you are not thin. Even average weight women are not considered to be beautiful. In today's society most people include thinness as a component of beauty. People with very average, plain or even ugly faces think they are physically beautiful or handsome as long as they are thin (or in the case of men trim and muscular.) There is a difference between the sexes: men usually have to be obese before they think they are fat. A woman would have to be diagnosed anorexic and even then she would be unlikely to think she is too thin.
Until the emphasis on nutritional eating and daily exercise--and what are the chances of that with Hollywood stars being our ideal and getting thinner by the minute?--there will be fat discrimination.
Studies show: Grade school children don't want to be friends with fat children; employers would rather thin employees; usually one of the first desired characteristics mentioned in personal ads refer to weight.
Not very long ago I started accepting myself as I am. Truly accepting. It took a long time. I haven't weighed myself but my clothes are getting looser!!!
I still use food to comfort myself sometimes. But I don't use it to comfort myself for the lack of acceptance I used to have for myself because of my weight.
Surprisingly, I feel much lighter all around. And I've been exercising more regularly too--it's for me. It's not because I want to be what any one else wants me to be..
Women of America. The average woman is 5'4' and 143 lbs. Not 100 lb. She is a dress size 14.
Stand up tall, you are beautiful at any weight if you are beautiful inside!
Jumping down off my soapbox,
Meta.