Genetic, unfortunately his stepfather is out to sea for weeks to a month at a time. When he's home my son is good because he respects him very very much. When he leaves he tries to do whatever he wants. All h--- breaks loose.

His biological father had him for a good amount of his adolescence. I thought he could provide more structure. He's married and my son wreaked so much havoc in the home that his stepmother feared for her life. She moved out until he was here with me. He laughed in his fathers face about scaring the stepmother away. He almost ruined their marriage and his dad was losing it. Cops called up there numerous times & our son is so manipulative the cop thought the dad was crazy. His father sent him here & gave up all parental responsibilities. (I did not know how bad it was until all the paperwork was signed).

That was a few years ago. At least down here he respects one parental figure. On an added note he's been through years of therapy. Refuses meds, or pretends to take them.

At 18 he can be removed from the home. I fear for his safety. How do you help a kid who refuses all help offered?

Baffled.