Thank you S4ndm4n.

I'm glad the Rabbi came around Bub. Turning northward is, I think, a change that you very much deserve and one long overdue. You deserve to be happy in your marriage. While I understand your Rabbi's sentiments, there's a limit as to what you should be willing to put up with, and there's the practical matter of a lifespan, as Hamster said. He has long surpassed that limit. You deserve much better than what he is to you.

Kudos to you to taking the steps to get through this, and know you're in my prayers.

Hugs,
Harley