I'm just over 20. I graduated college early and have a well paying job. Through a miracle, I convinced my parents to let my boyfriend to move in, and we were both very grateful and have made sure they know this, offering to pay rent (though the offer was refused), picking up extra chores, paying our own expenses. My parents have been controlling my life as long as I can remember, and for the most part, it was fine. They gave me advice on college and stuff like that. It was helpful, even though I did find their restrictions (curfew of sunset, no friends they don't approve, must tell them when leaving the house, tracking my paychecks, etc) irritating, I accepted it as a condition of living in their house. I've been saving for down payments on a house since my boyfriend moved in (just before getting my job). My parents have consistently "borrowed" money from my savings with promises they'd pay me back. They didn't pay it all back (I won't argue that since we aren't paying rent). But when my mother yelled at me for not having a certain amount of money saved, that was the last straw. Since he moved in, they've been different. In the past, they were physically and mentally/emotionally abusive. That had slowed down, but since he moved in, it has gotten worse than it ever had been. So now for my dilemma. I've been house hunting for a month or so now, and I've found my dream home. It's affordable. I made an offer. but ever since I started the hunt, my parents have been trying to get me to move into a particular type of place, and mostly very near them. I don't want that. The place I'm looking at is great, but they believe any house older than 10 years isn't worth looking at. This place has had everything about it replaced and remodeled within 10 years, but it's an older home. They won't approve. But I already offered and haven't had them look at it at all (my dad insists on "inspecting" anything I look at. Basically, he wants to give an okay on only places he approves on). I am making my own decisions. I'm an adult, and I want to live in a place were I'd like to be and would be happy living in. My problem is, how do I tell them without making them hate me? Even though they've been controlling, I still love them both and would like to maintain a positive relationship if possible.