I have to agree with Inedible in that it's a shame that almost all pastors, rabbis, and ALL priests (catholic) are men. Wouldn't we perhaps get a different point of view from a woman?

The fact that Bub, you've been abused for so long and now sexually abused it proof enough that this marriage is over. God does NOT intend for you to suffer this abuse forever! This is tearing away your self-esteem, your self-worth, and certainly doesn't help any depression you might ALREADY have.

God gave us BRAINS enough to do something about terrible and painful situations. He expects us to save ourselves and our children (if any) from dangerous and hurtful situations. So I vote for getting out while you still have plenty of good years ahead of you! You're a wonderful woman. Leave this brute and move on -- find someone who DESERVES you and will LOVE and PROTECT you the way you deserve!.

I wish you the very best Please keep us posted, will you??? God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee