I think its great that you're now making your own choice. And its also great that you want to maintain a good relationship with them. But I have to say that if they were mentally and physically abusive to you, you need to remember that you have been through enough with them. I just simply wouldn't worry about your house. They would have to be extreme to hate you, as you put it, over you buying a house - your house - without their permission. It may be a lesson that they need to learn to be honest, that you're now an adult, doing well, and making her own way in life. Sometimes you just cannot please everyone, and you should sometimes please yourself.... Hugs