Hi,

I am hoping to hear any opinions from anybody about my situation. I have been married for over 5 years but been together for 7 years. During this time, there were ups and downs which I believe happens to everybody. I wasn't a perfect wife and he wasn't a perfect husband but I would say we were both good with each other for the most part. He and I tried to have a baby since 2007 and finally in 2011 I got pregnant and baby was born last year, (now 10 months old).

But in 2011 my husband got a new job which unfortunately require him to work almost 27/7. This job has changed him from being a nice person to short tempered and moody person which caused us to have consant arguments because he sometimes take his work frustrations home with him and I wasn't too understanding about it either. But even though we had all the arguments, we were still happy and loved each other (I thought anyway). So after having our son, things has gotten worst because we both work full time and the stress has doubled. But we both agree we will get through it.

So we recently bought our dream house after Thanksgiving of last year. My husband thought that it is best for us to have a house that has a yard and a basement for our son. I was really happy because we have everything we always wished to have(baby, dream house, stable job). We have so many plans on what we need to do to make this house a home.

But, January of this year my husband was given less than 48 hours to travel to South America, so within that remaining hours, he was stressing out to change the house locks because he wans to make sure that when he isn't home at least he knows my son and I will be safe. So, we never have any time to spend together to do something nice before he left. We both know he did not want to go because this is the first time He will be away from me for a long time let alone we now have a baby.

So he arrived in South America and the first thing he told me was that they could not go anywhere without their body guards and guns so it really made me worried. On January 13th was his birthday and this is when the huge argument happened. Earlier that day, we were talking and everything was fine then he said he will call me in 3 hours. But 5 hours later, he has not called so I decided to call him. first couple attempts no answer and then 3rd someone answered the phone but all I could hear was women/woman giggling and laughing... I listened to it for a few mins then I hang up, called again and I hear the same thing. Didn't get no sleep that night, He called the next day and I asked him what happened, He said he just forgot to call me. I asked about the woman/women giggling, He said he does not know and he did not answer my calls that night. So we had a BIG arguments over it.

Then everything was fine.. Make the story short.. He came home February 20th, made love to me but the next day told me He does not love me anymore and want a divorce. I was numb, hurt but didn't know how to react. I asked if there's someone else, He said, His decision is based truly on how he feels towards me and has nothing to do with the woman He had met at the bar who is 14 years younger than him. After he told me, He started acting so cold towards me and our son, all he does is chat with this woman even in front of me and our son. I asked him to give me some respect and not to do in my own house, in front of me and our son. But he never did stop. So we live in one house but no longer a couple. He left to go back to see last Thursday and is coming home tomorrow.

He is now telling this woman that She is the love he has been waiting for his entire life and that could not live life without her. He is now telling her everything he used to tell me. Is he really in love with this woman? My friend is his friend on FB and she was the one telling me all these. She said, my husband is writing all these love poems on her FB wall but the girl really has no respond to it except Thumbs Up or just I Love You.

He has told me that He might have fallen out of love even before our son was conceived???? He said, I stopped being intimate?? I was on bed rest for 7 months, and some complications after son was born in June of 2012. I am so hurt and so lost right now..

My love for him still very strong that I cannot even hate him, I am not mad at him, I actually forgive him for what he has done the first time around, but now, after this second trip knowing that this time is intentional, I am not sure anymore, I more lost but still somewhat hopeful that he will wake up from this Infatuation. I am lost because I still love him but also not sure anymore if I can take him back or not after this. Somehow, I am holding on to a little hope that He will wake up from this and want us back. Please share me your thoughts and opinions. (I am 33 and hubby is 36 and son is 10 months old.)