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Old Apr 07, 2013, 12:47 AM
Anonymous33350
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Originally Posted by LovelaceF View Post
I can really identify with your post. You asked for info about daughters, and I can't help there. I do have an 11 year old son with ADD though.

He's someone who can be extremely volatile. Over the years, I have learned that he responds much more positively to my patience and understanding vs. me having "normal" parental expectations.

My son is very smart, too. He is gifted in verbal subjects in school and will use his gifts to argue his "case".

I am no expert, but I really do think he is not capable of remembering to do simple, routine thing that others can do - for example cleaning his room, brushing his teeth, etc. We use checklists and charts for everything. Part of his problem is that he often feels that he doesn't understand directions. Simplifying expectations and putting them in writing really help, because he will sometimes forget or differently interpret what was asked of him.

Consequences are the same. We write contracts with each other, and stipulate the consequences of not following agreements. This makes discipline extremely effective when the rules are in black and white, in advance.

Of course, my son still become upset if he does not live up to his agreement, but not to the extreme degrees that he did before. I hope this helps, if even a litte.

Best wishes!
Checklists and charts are my obsession. I'd never get anything done if I didn't make a list telling me to. And I break everything down into step by step process within my list. I also use alarms a lot. I know this sounds pathetic but I actually have daily alarms on my phone throughout the day reminding me to take my medicines and to eat. I can easily forget to eat all day if not reminded because I just get so absorbed in whatever I am doing that I don't think about anything else!

PS it looks like yzzadd gave you great advice! Best of luck to you! Please keep us updated on y'all's progress!!
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Thanks for this!
LovelaceF