I call myself a sponge. I soak up everything; every comment, event, etc. Nothing rolls off my back. I wish I were a duck. So yes, things bother me deeply. I too try to focus on what I can control. I differentiate between what is my problem and what is someone else's problem. I try not to take on other people's issues, eg. their anger, their resentment. It can feel hard to go on when we have been plagued for so long, but I always say that we only have two choices--to go on or to give up, and I don't want to give up so I go on. If we've made it this far, we can surely keep truckin'. Good luck to you.