Yes your needs ARE important. And if he's not gettiing it, then it's time that he does.

Ask him if he's willing to go to marital counseling. Tell him that your marriage is dependent on it, because your needs aren't being met, and you aren't feeling loved and needed, or appreciated. Marriage DOES take work on BOTH sides, and if he's not willing to put the work into it like you are then what's the use? He has to show as much commitment into the marriage as YOU are --- so see if he'll go to counseling.

Hopefully the counselor will teach you both how to communicate - which is something that it SOUNDS like you two aren't doing very well. You've got to be able to communicate in order to express love and needs. I wish you the very best. I hope things work out for you. God bless & please take care. Hugs, Lee