They can seem very "charming" and have this "fake caring" about them too. But they are actually "cold" and don't really see the needs of others.

It is important to remember that all people have "some" narcisistic qualities to them and it is when someone has too much of it that they become a danger to be around or toxic in a relationship or friendship etc. They are all about "power and show" so alot of them are drawn to "politics" or gravitate to areas where there are competitions they can win in, hense Lance Armstrong and Tiger Woods, only true to "themselves and status".

Anyone can react to criticism with anger and shame, anyone who has been genuinely hurt can feel rejected. Someone who has truely been victimized can act self absorbed and struggle to trust in a way that can make them "appear" to look narcisistic. So it is very important to "not" just judge a person simply because they are angry or struggling either. Anyone can set goals that appear to be unreasonable too, it doesnt always mean they are narcisistic, they could actually be highly driven confident people that are actually "healthy" minded and might have some narcisistic tendencies but are not lacking in empathy with a disregard or respect for others.

It is not uncommon if someone is raised by a narcisist that they get triggered if they see any traits that may remind them of this toxic person that never really nurtured them. A strong minded person who works hard and gains some success doesn't mean they are a narcisist.

Typically someone who has been raised by a narcisist can become a very "confused" person. The reason for this is because the narcisist never showed them true love and appreciation so they often struggle with self esteem or sense of self worth, not their fault.

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