I can understand why it must be hard to sort out. At a time when I was feeling strong feelings toward my therapist, I thought they were also being entertained by him. He had mentioned his own relationship with his analyst, which was eroticized even though they both didn't act on it, but they discussed it. I had reasons to believe he felt something for me, but in the end I myself realized that I was eroticizing intimacy when what I wanted was real intimacy not an erotic connection of any sort, fantasy or otherwise. When it dawned on me that that intimacy was much more important and meaningful than anything else I thought I wanted, I relaxed and the feelings went away. It was actually distracting me from forming a deeper bond I think. At least that is how it turned out.