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Originally Posted by chris.Tina
OMG... None of the above. I meant that he had sex with random women, married or not, I just thought that the word "sex" was not appropriate for the forum.
I am 25 years old by the way and I don't work, I was fired due to economic crises.
If he was a criminal, or a gambler, or something that does not change and it is an addiction, I wouldn't even date him. Or if I learned that he had criminal records, stuff like that, I wouldn't agree more and even I wouldn't discuss this right now and of course I wouldn't even fight with my parents about this.
Also I checked his records and everything connecting to him. I should write in the first place he was naughty... :P
Sorry for the confusion, I don't get much sleep lately...
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You didn't cause any confusion chris.Tina.
Do you see any similarity between the reactions of people on the board, or even yourself, and the reaction of your parents at the suggestion that your guy had raped someone rather than slept around? Let's examine that.
What is the underlying message from your parents? That "being naughty" or "sleeping around" is unacceptable. That it is not tolerable. That they want something "better" for their daughter.
Sleeping around is less extreme "immoral" behavior than rape. But does that mean that it is in line with your parents' values?
You are an adult and have your own set of values, which differ from those of your parents. This is the true source of your conflict. You are experiencing a clash of values with your parents.
I think it is important for both you and your parents to recognize this clash. Otherwise, you will both continue to try to "win" the argument. Realistically neither of you will succeed in bringing the other over to your side. Meanwhile, you will be locked in this resentment of your parents, and they will feel the same resentment.
Your parents will need to agree to disagree with you on this point and you will need to do the same. I think an honest conversation with your parents would be a step in the right direction here. I hope you are able to work it out! If you have a therapist, he or she should be able to give you some helpful pointers.