I can give you my opinion on the part of the question that relates to compliments and affection.

Compliments and statements of feelings first. Compliments and feelings and affection as related in oral speech.

To me, the tone of voice of the person who pays the compliments / talks about feelings etc. is as important as the meaning of the words. Very simple English words, such as "I miss you", can be profoundly moving and forever memorable if uttered without prompting, or can sound unnatural and forced if uttered with prompting. Since I only enjoy the moving and memorable experiences, I do not fish for compliments (or fish for anything else). This is primarily out of self interest because I know that I would not enjoy either a forced compliment or the realization that I asked somebody to slightly supress his free will.