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Originally Posted by MargotQuill
I'm so desperate for attention and friendship, I usually try too hard when meeting people for the first time and I kind of scare them off. Maybe I should wait for people to want to come to me, instead of the other way around. But I just lack the patience for a miracle to happen to me and people rarely want to get to know me better.
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We all have to try to meet people initially. It's a scary thing to be vulnerable - "will they like me?" But I've found that most people are worried about the SAME thing. I've found that when I put people on a pedestal, like I HAVE to become friends with them....it usually ends up poorly. Nobody is a perfect friend or relationship...nobody is on the A-Game all the time....If I try to hard and maybe idealize someone, they never meet my expectations...and it's easy to devalue them. I'm working on being balanced in relationships...keeping the small number of friends I have...and enjoying *me* (my habits, talents, and quirks). Funny thing is...when I'm balanced and liking me...other people want to be around me without my having to try....