It was only since 2003 that the "law of the land" i.e. the Supreme Court of the United States ruled that states cannot make laws against consensual sodomy. Before then, there were perhaps 10 states with such laws on the books, including mine.

In any case, yes, laws are trending toward privacy and toward personal choice on that front. There are plenty of lawmakers who would prefer to see that trend reversed, though, I can assure you. This is because homosexual relationships, even though legal in most cases, still contradict people's values.

I stand by what I said. The OP's parents and the OP have a conflict of values. This story is as old as the sun.