If you are still in a lot of pain, try to find a pain management clinic near you. If they will take you on as a patient, they may be able to help you get disability. That way it isn't just coming from you. You have a Dr. backing you up on your claim. You can also check with some of the law offices that will look at your case for worker's comp free and will not charge unless you win.

With the present economy, finding work isn't easy for anyone, let alone someone with a disability. There are some jobs that can be done over the phone. They probably are not up to your standards of what you would like in a job, but its worth looking. At least it would give you a little income.

Have you spoken to your wife about her comments on facebook? Let her know that she is hurting you and breaking a confidence by posting your personal business.

I feel for you. If I did not have my own business, I would be right where you are, and may wind up there anyway. I have a chronic pain condition and its cut my ability to work to three half days a week, often only one. My insurance is over six hundred a month out of pocket because of all the medications, proceedures etc. and often I can't afford to pay myself. My income is well below the poverty level and my insurance alone takes over half my monthly earnings. Were I not living with a couple of friends, I'd be on the street. All you can do is keep on keeping on. Its scary, makes you feel inadequate and useless and your ego really takes a beating. Usually there is a way around the medical things, but it takes a lot of digging and calls to find the loopholes.

In the meantime, remember that you are not worthless. You are in a bad situation that was not your fault and has no bearing on you as a person. I don't know what your wife's income is or the economy of your area, but you might see if you are eligable for food stamps or other community help. Don't be embarrassed to use those services. They were put in place for people in your situation. There is no sense in shying away from them just to save your pride. Don't let your wife make you feel like you are a sub-human. It could just as easily have happened to her.

Sam2