My wife separated from me last year in March. I understand and I can see from your perspective, believe me. Trust me, you are not sounding pathetic at all. The thing is that i went through all of that loneliness, neediness and even desperation at times the past year. It has been tough and I just want you to know it can get better and easier to cope with. It may take awhile, but whatever you do, don't push so hard to get her back. If she's done with you, it won't do anything but ruin what you have as a good relationship in taking care of the kid(s?).

More than likely, it wasn't one sided. I want to give you these words of encouragement, you won't see this right away maybe but still it is true. A marriage that works takes two people willing to work together, acommodate each other and support each other. By the same token, no ONE person can ruin a marriage, that is, unless one is, an abusive, psycho.. but then there was never a marriage to begin with. Thing is you may be depressed and deal with a lot of issues mentally but it always takes two people to make or break a marriage. Just because she is blaming everything on you doesn't mean it's true. And with that, I say I'm sure that you're a good person, and there's probably someone better out there for you - someday. Hang in there.

Pay attention to yourself, give yourself the attention and love that you probably (it sounds like) have neglected. With all your willingness to be apologetic and almost groveling to her, I'm guessing this is not new behavior. Stand up and try to find your individuality and focus on you and your kid(s). My boys are everything to me right now and it's really done wonders to keep me focused and keep going everyday. You'll find your place, even in singlehood. Life's too short to waste it on pining away for a mate. Best thing about it is that when you find your own way, and are content finally with yourself, someone will find you. It always seems to work that way.

Hope this helps!
~S4