Thank you everyone for your replies, sorry I have not replied sooner it has been a busy couple of days at uni!

I completely understand he'll only ever have one mother, I have never said or wanted him to stay away from her, i have just took myself away from her but that takes me away from him.
I know he is in such a tough position which is why I really dont want to make it harder for him.

I have suggested the support groups before but I will try again.

Thank you again for all your responses, it's nice to be able to talk to people