Hello,

First of all I know my feelings are not right. I hate my step daugther who is 7 and I do not want to be around her. Not because she is a bad child, but because of what she represents.

She has done some bad things. She pushed my six year old off the trampoline and she tried to have our Great Dane (150 lbs dog) attack my child. She also tattles on us and is very snooty. But come on I do realize most kids are snooty at times.

Here is why I hate her. My husband's family does not recognize our marriage because the ex has told them that if they have anything to do with me she will not allow contact with her daugther. She has taken us to court at least four times. She constantly denies visitation and phone calls. My husband still pays for 1/2 of her mortage. She has stolen money from us. She will not allow me to be alone with her child because she doesn't trust me. She accusses me of everything under the sun.

I am always nice to his daugther but I do not try to have a relationship with her. I have gotten to the point where I can not stand that she is around. I just want to leave when she is there. When all of this happened at first my husband agreed it was just too much drama to have her around, but he changed his mind and now insists on having a relationship with her and having her over a lot.

I know my feelings are not fair for him or for his daugther. But none-the-less I feel them and I asked for a divorce because of it. He begs me not to go, stalks me and says he can't lose me and refuses to sign the papers (we have to agree to seperation for one year in our state before divorce). He will not move out of the home I owned before we were married and according to the law I cant make him.

I love my husband, but when he shows her love or attention I fill with anger. The rational side of me knows it is because my children and I have been treated so poorly by his ex and his family and I see her as a representation of that. I refuse to be mean to a child and I feel lately it has been getting worse and I am afraid I might start to be mean to her. I want to leave. Is there anything I can do to free myself of this anger?