I feel like figuring out yourself is something you cannot plan. One day, the day will come and you will figure out who you are. This day could come today, tomorrow, or 40 years from now. I'm telling you, the day when you figure out who you are will be one of the best days of your life. Until then, keep doing what you're doing. Don't stress yourself out about it, that will only make it worse. The day will most likely come when you least expect it. Stay true to who you are! Someday you're going to have to forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made in the past. You no longer live in the past. What happened, happened and you can't go back and change it. Once you accept the fact that you can't change what happened in the past, things will be well.