Can I refer you back to your previous post where you talked about seeing the middle and not just thinking in black and white?

Knowing you need to set boundaries doesn't mean you magically can. You can't just decide to get over learned helplessness.

If I was in a less strong place, I would potentially report this post. Perhaps you don't realise how unkind it sounds. I do set boundaries, but I don't find it easy, nor do I judge others who find it harder than I do.

Knowing what you need and being able to do or get it are simply not the same thing. I stand by what I said: castigating anyone who is experiencing any kind of unwanted touch or attention for failing to set boundaries is unhelpful and shaming.

Telling someone with a freeze response to instantly change their habits is psychologically unrealistic, given that our neural pathways form over time and changing a habit or behaviour actually requires you to change the structure of your brain.

Personally, I reserve the right to feel conflicted and persecuted if people do not respect the basic boundaries already dictated by society, which gives me limited faith that they would respect any set by me either, as I'm just me.

I'm sure PW must feel similarly.