I feel bad that has been yours and others experiences. My T often apologizes to me, when something she's done or said has triggered a hurtful response in me. Just yesterday, my T was trying to point out an unhealthy pattern that she saw in me, but the tone of voice she used reminded me strongly of my mother, and all I heard from T was "you're wrong." I physically flinched and T noticed. She asked me what was going on, and I kinda lashed out a little, T just asked again what I was feeling, and I told her that I felt hurt and that I was going to cry, then proceeded to do just that. T waited until I stopped crying, then apologized that what she'd done had hurt me. We both understood that it wasn't really T, but more my own issues, but T still apologized for triggering me and wanted to understand what had happened. I talked a little about it in session, then reflected more later and sent T an email. She apologized again in email.

My T also always apologizes if she's running late or needs to reschedule or something (that rarely happens, though).

I think, with my T and I, there is mutual respect, and I've never felt like she thinks she's above me in any way. I appreciate that and am grateful I found her. I'm not sure I could work with someone that was always putting the blame back on me and couldn't work with me as an equal.