Woh woh woh, I knew this was gonna end up in an argument.

I dont want to pursue this argument and to gang up on anyone but I do think that was quite a childish thing to do, to belittle TR like that.

I understand what you're trying to say Sannah, that learning to stick up for yourself is an important part of healing. You're more than entitled to your opinion and I wouldnt tell you to take it back, but I think we must juts be careful not to make things personal here. Everyone has their own strong opinions.

To be honest, I feel sorry for you if thats really how you feel Sannah, that its your job to say no. I dont know what you've been through, but if thats how you think you must still have a lot of self blame.

I didnt ask whether it was my fault because I thought it was, I know it isnt. I asked it to try and make you question what you said.

I've set boundaries before and people have crossed them. I said no. I ran away. I got dragged back, pushed against a wall and raped. So don't tell me I can't say no. I can. How do you hurt someone you love? Do two wrongs make a right?

Throughout my childhood sexual abuse, I probably didnt fight as much as I could have. I didnt even know there should have been a boundary there though, for me to put up.