I've recently started seeing a guy, which is big news for me. I have the big question in my head - no, not marriage, but do I tell him about being borderline?

We've had two dates since we hooked up, and it actually seems like this relationship might go somewhere. I really like him, but before we started seeing each other I was his supervisor (but I'm only a year older than him), which embarrasses me as I'm afraid it would appear unprofessional, and it means I get really paranoid whenever I'm in public with him, and I'm afraid to tell my friends.

Things between us have escalated pretty quickly. Last time he came over I told him I wanted to take things slower, but that didn't happen. Then a few hours after he left I got really angry because I'd let myself down and ended up cutting myself, which he doesn't know about either. So now I have to hide the cuts from him when he comes over at the weekend. And what if he notices?

He's noticed my behaviour is a bit erratic, and has made jokes about being crazy, but I'm terrified that the truth will scare him off. I read somewhere that I should wait until the 10th date, and even then just say things like "I have problems regluating my emotions, with abandonment, etc".

He's really good at being honest and I suck at it.

I really don't want to lie to him, but maybe it's for the best? Maybe I should wait with the honesty until I've known him for longer, or will he resent me for that?

Do you guys have any experience in this area?