I think therapists use a various things, including apology or lack thereof, to manipulate clients.

"As most of you know already, my new t whom I have seen for 4 or 5 sessions didn't show up for two of those sessions and one other was extremely late."

Good morning,

Are all of her screwups administrative? If so, she is a poor businesswoman. If not, she doesn't understand the need for a therapuetic alliance or how to establish the basic framework for therapy. How in the world could you ever trust this woman?

Yes, your past makes you more sensitive to feelings of rejection. This has nothing to do with your past, it is about the here and now. Would you accept this behavior from an attorney, a banker or even a friend? I don't think so.

I am a retired therapist and the fact that she is trying to make it all about you infuriates me. I know there is a theme concerning a therapist who is willing to offer an apology. We are way past that with this woman. It is abusive to blame you for her screwups.

I would not see this woman again. She is harmful to your mental well being and a waste of money. Look at the emotional energy you are expending on her. This is not about a therapuetic issue to be worked on with her. It is about her being unwilling to accept responsibilty for her behaviors.

You deserve better than the happy horsesh*t this woman is peddling.

Sabra