Eventually, I personally would have to get to the point of forgiveness, but there really isn't a timeline on forgiveness for me. It is not a "decision" I make, snap my fingers, and accomplish in one quick step. It's a process--often a very long one--and one that sometimes I have to go through more than once in regards to certain people/wrongs. For me, forgiveness has absolutely very little to do with the person I'm forgiving, but much more to do with my ability to move forward with my life out from under the anger and resentment and bitterness that can just eat me alive. I don't forgive for their sake; I forgive for my own well-being.

If you reach that point, you'll know when you get there. No one can put you on a schedule for how or when that happens. I suspect many, many people don't have a real understanding of what forgiveness even means to them and they throw that word out "easily" without really even comprehending it themselves. It took years and years for me to wrap my head around the concept, and even more years to reach a point where I realized I had actually done it.

Try not to let anyone make you feel pressured into forgiveness. It just doesn't work that way. If it is going to come, it will come in its own time, in its own way.