there is nothing weird about you nina......you DO show compassion, you DO support others, you DO listen....and you OBVIOUSLY DO love people.

if other folks get mixed up with how you express what is listed above then that is THEIR issue, THEIR problem and THEIR stuff.

please do not take on the grief of others and call yourself a failure.

if anything you're a success for posting about this and asking for feedback. you've challenged your distortions and you've received some helpful posts from the members of this community.

sorry you're not feeling like you're good at this.......we happen to think you do a fine job of interacting peacefully with others

water off a duck's back.......try to let the misunderstandings roll off you like water off a duck's back. don't even give distortions a second to penitrate....let them roll off immediately. practice and you'll be feeling less like a failure and more like the kind, sharing, helpful lady you are.

kindly,