I apologize if I was too judgemental. You are so right that everyone's relationship with their T is unique, and what is right for one is not necessarily right for the other. Your T and my pdoc are obviously very different types of people personality wise and that affects how they interact with their patients. And i'll admit I have boundary issues so that kind of closeness with a male T would be confusing and hard for me to handle. I NEED defined boundaries, where others may not. I'm glad you have a T who has affected you so positively, that is the most important thing after all.