[quote=Lovebird;2971406]Best: "Even when she thinks she's building you up, she's tearing you down." Said by my therapist, about my mother. This affirmed for me that I was not, in fact, simply twisting her words around and choosing to interpret them negatively, like she and other family members told me I was doing. She actually was putting subtle insults in there, and then denying it.[quote]

This sounds so like my mother... she can say something but underneath her words she is cutting me off at the knees. I always wonder "is it just me" and I'm twisting her words. Thanks for posting this.