Interesting reading folks, keep them coming. I really agree about the value of being the "real you" and the importance of establishing a connection which transcends whatever topics may be discussed. Of course, those two really go hand in hand I think. I only find myself feeling truely connected when I relax and let the real me out.
Let me add one more question to the original....did you find, in your experience, that it's the long-term work of therapy that is helpful to you or a few isolated experiences that have contributed the most to your healing. I know some therapies are geared more toward short-term and other toward long-term, so I'm sure the answers are many....I find this all fascinating. Thanks everyone.