Thank you Syra, I think this is the result of my therapy- not with her! I have learned to trust myself and not believe what others say about me because that is just how they perceive me and their beliefs can get in the way of their judgements.

What other people say about you says more about them than it does about me!
Her trying to shift the blame onto me is her packing her guilt into a bag and giving me her luggage to carry. I would be doing myself no favours if I let her do this because she is always saying I need to stand up for myself and believe and protect me.