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Hi Button,
This post was started on 4/9 with a topic that quickly served as a segue into the same topic you started in a thread on 3/29 (which spanned 11 pages and was ultimately closed). In that thread some people challenged you (on exactly what you're writing about here, though in some cases with a little more information), had different opinions/perspectives on the matter, which you very much disagreed with.
Why the redux? Are you looking for the support you feel you did not get on the other thread?
You have omitted from this thread something you wrote to that therapist which is what she seemed to be responding to.
In the last thread you wrote:
I also said in the email that my first t didn't show up for two of my sessions and that maybe it is a strange coincidence or maybe that I don't matter to anyone enough to show up! She was referring to this and felt the need to point out that I was choosing to hurt myself and that I was isolating myself by not going back to her from trusting relationships.
From the above, maybe she felt that you interpret others' mistakes as proof that you are unworthy and that they can't be trusted. I don't know about the "choosing" to hurt yourself, or if she used that word, but you do hurt yourself this way.
She owned that she made a mistake. You reacted by saying that she's just yet another t whose behavior proves that you don't matter and she challenged that. Maybe not very eloquently, but I do get her point of view.
I do not see any need for this other therapist to 'own' or 'apologize' for you coming to the conclusion that you're unworthy as a result of her forgetting your appointment. As I've said before, I do think therapists should acknowledge when they have hurt a client (however unintentionally), but they should not own their client's reactions.
In any case, after this particular thread, I hope you can put this behind you and move forward with your current therapist (who as I understand it, you never left). And I hope if you decide to look elsewhere again, you will do so because you have decided that that's what you need to do (you said you only went to see this other person because people here thought you should) -I think you'll be more invested if you do it that way.
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