Well, you def have more experience than me, but I will say this:

1. I have had three Ts, and all are female. The first two were a little cold, but my current T is warm.
2. My best friend found my current T through Internet research. Yes, I know that it is said to have a trusted person or physician refer you, but, for whatever reason, I found an awesome T...well my friend found her for me...without a referral. So, it can be done!

In other words, I guess I'm trying to say that this one guy isn't your last and one-and-only hope! Sure, you may have to go about it in another way, but there are many Ts out there! Also, the first two Ts I saw took insurance. My current T does not but does offer a sliding scale....

I hope this guy works out or that you can find a T that is a good match and a great T!