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Originally Posted by Gloom
So, my main concerns to sum it up: - I'm not the center of his attention anymore, and that makes me insecure;
- He doesn't say he loves me anymore; just that he likes or adores me, sometimes but not nearly as often as before;
Hopefully I can get some logical thinking from everyone else, as I actually struggle to be able to. If I just let my emotions run wild, I'll act like a lunatic. |
If you want logical thinking...
1) He used to say that he loved you
2) You used to be the center of his attention.
Then the long list of things described in the OP happened.
As a result,
1) he does not say that he loves you but does say that he adores you and likes you, which is a qualitative change, and not as frequently, which is a quantitative change
2) you are no longer the center of his attention, but you are still partly within his attention span, so this is a quantitative change, too
So there is a downward trend.
Presumably, if you keep doing the things you have been doing, the downward trend will continue.
So you need to do less of what you used to do or come up with new things.
Also some logical thinking - attraction is not based on prettiness alone, so do not worry so much about the possibility that the female friends might be prettier (plus, there is nothing to be done about it). You are probably plenty pretty and the issues that caused the separation had absolutely nothing to do with your looks (right?), so the attention given to the possibility of prettier rivals is misguided.