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Old Apr 12, 2013, 12:33 AM
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Originally Posted by OR82 View Post
I have had it with people. I am tired of being the one there for others, being the shoulder to cry on and then being brushed aside and blown off. What is wrong with me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Seems like what you are doing wrong is refusing to accept cultural reality that small talk is a way for people to gauge you and get comfortable with you. They don't want your intense and serious stuff dumped on them until they get to know you in a safer context first. They have boundaries. It's culture. Live by it or die by it. It hurts to not know how to function in it, as I know from 40 or so years of painful experience in that regard.